I am sitting in my dorm, having just applied Sally Hansen leopard-print press-on nails and wearing a chiffon dress from Forever 21 that my sister told me "looks really expensive." I am waiting to hear from a nerdy but cute guy I'll call Nate*, whom I know from class. I read with interest the numerous other articles, books, and blog posts about the "me, me, me generation" (as Joel Stein calls us), our rejection of chivalry, and our hookup culture — which is supposedly the downfall of college dating. I didn't walk away from my conversation with Nate expecting a bouquet of roses to follow. Nate never wrote or called me that night, even after I texted him at 11 p.m. As to why you got weird." But Nate didn't acknowledge his weirdness. But I didn't have the energy to tell Nate that I was sick of his (and many other guys') assumption that women spend their days plotting to pin down a man and that ignoring me wasn't the kindest way to tell me he didn't want to lead me on. Williams is not the only one thinking about millennials and our potentially hopeless futures for finding love.Not only that – there’s not a single parent living in your whole dorm building.
But I'm still not comfortable with Rosin's assertion that "feminist progress...depends on the existence of hookup culture." feature "She Can Play That Game Too." In Taylor's story, female students at Penn speak proudly about the "cost-benefit" analyses and "low-investment costs" of hooking up as compared to being in committed relationships.
In theory, hookup culture empowers millennial women with the time and space to focus on our ambitious goals while still giving us the benefit of sexual experience, right? As Maddie, my 22-year-old friend from Harvard (who, FYI, graduated with highest honors and is now at Yale Law School), puts it: "The 'I don't have time for dating' argument is bullshit.
No, you won’t go to college and magically transform into another person who does not care about their hometown relationships, but your world is about to expand and you might like it. Staying together is going to take a lot of effort if you want it to work out, but sometimes, you might want to let go. In that sense, it’s just like high school, except that you all now live together, which makes running in to this person wearing your pajamas in the dining hall isn’t going to feel so rad. 11) Trying to sleep next to someone in an extra long twin bed is rough and almost not worth it. Or anything larger than a My Size Barbie, so mostly everyone. 20) If you don’t meet the love of your life – or anyone, for that matter – that’s completely fine.
6) Try as hard as you can not to date someone in your building or within your major. You can date someone and never be their girlfriend and that’s fine. 12) Not everyone has the same background as you do. I’m almost 27 and I’ve never been in a relationship and that’s okay.
This clearly means constant hook ups, partying nonstop, and no drama, right? Everyone experiences college differently and there is no right answer about how to date and what rules to follow there…