Dating a man in his 50s
"I am a 53 year old recently divorced man getting back in the dating game.
I don't feel much different than I did when I was 30, and younger women are attracted to me. From this angle I understand completely why someone would want to start dating younger women, yet I struggle with the implications on a larger scale.But if you're lying about your age or withholding your age?Sooner or later it'll come out in the open, and don't be surprised if the relationship ends because of it. My Dad was 14 years older than my Mom, and a close female friend of mine has been dating a man almost twenty years her senior for seven years.Few single women today will tolerate deceit in any form, especially the 30-somethings you would like to date. May December romances happen all the time in fact - but like any good relationship, they have to start with a foundation of respect and honesty.The only age groups that generally seem happy with the dating younger women phenomena are the 40-something women (because they are dating younger men), and the single 70+ men (who are in high demand because of sheer lack of numbers).Having said all of that (don't worry, my rant about dating younger women is over), you do say that younger women are attracted to you.
If that's truly the case, I don't see what the problem is.
If these women know you are 53 and don't have an issue with it, the only complaint I hear is society's take (which shouldn't matter if you look the same age as the women you are dating, because 'society' would never know you were dating younger women anyway by looks alone).
From a personal perspective, I'll tell you that ever since I was 25 I've been inundated with chat request, flirtatious comments, emails and pickup lines from men in their 50s - and every single one has said something along same lines unfortunately: "I don't look or feel few people actually do look younger than they are chronologically, and if I were to mention I felt a massive incompatibility or that I felt deceived by their younger-looking online photos, it was a good bet my date would either lash out at me with a litany of vile insults, attempt the friends with benefits route, or both.
So for me, the dating younger women phenomena is frustrating - and not only because I have to find kinder, gentler ways of telling increasingly aggressive older men I'm not interested.
The offshoot of this ever-growing trend is that men my own age are busy pursuing women in their early 20s, to the point of where its rare to find a man in his 30s or older online whole profile says anything but 'dating younger women' is what they're after, even if its just the age range that is able to contact them.
And its not just me: many readers complain about the same thing, especially the 50-something ladies almost frantic with frustration, because - you guessed it - none of the men they grew up with will give them a second glance.