But I also think there is something to be said about the way in which gender, stereotypes and our nation's history (where black boys were lynched for looking at white women) has impacted the makeup of black/white relationships. There were actually quite a few women I interviewed for Don't Bring Home A White Boy who expressed your exact sentiments: they resented black men with white wives.
Karyn Folan: Hello, I talked to several experts-- social psychologists and others who have studied or worked with the children of interracial unions.
As you might expect, the experiences of these children are as different as the individual kids themselves.
I think a lot of those resentments stem from insecurities about our value-- and as I well know, we ALL have to work on that. Acknowledge your feelings, and then try to understand where they come from.
Not to sound too "granola" here but the work is always within.
However, parental support and living in diverse areas seems to provide the best environments for multi-racial children to do well.